This memorial website was created in the memory of our little angel, Ava Lynn Voelz, who was born in Illinois on June 01, 2006 and passed away on June 01, 2006 . We will remember her forever. Ava Lynn Voelz was born from the innocence of her mother's womb to the arms of her Heavenly Father at 7:17am on June 01, 2006. A child conceived in love, Ava, passed through this world all too soon, to make her home with Jesus. She will forever be remembered with special love by her parents, Eric and Heather; her grandparents, Dan and Sue Frederick and Nancy Voelz; loving aunts and uncles; Jason and Kristi Frederick, Rob and Heidi McMahon, Rachel Frederick and Laura Voelz. Ava plays now, in her Heavenly home, with her grandfather, Charles Voelz, as well as many other family members. A private family service was held Tuesday, June 06, 2006. Words of hope and comfort were shared with daddy and mommy and their families.
NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTIONS FOR BEREAVED PARENTS
That I will grieve as much and for as long as I feel like grieving, and that I will not let others put a timetable on my grief.
That I will grieve in whatever way I feel like grieving, and I will ignore those who try to tell me what I should or should not be feeling and how I should or should not be behaving.
That I will cry whenever and wherever I feel like crying, and that I will not hold back my tears just because someone else feels I should be "brave" or "getting better" or "healing by now".
That I will talk about my child as often as I want to, and that I will not let others turn me off just because they can't deal with their own feelings.
That I will not expect family and friends to know how I feel, understanding that one who has not lost a child cannot possibly know how I feel.
That I will not blame myself for my child's death, and I will constantly remind myself that I did the best job of parenting I could possibly have done. But when feelings of guilt are overwhelming, I will remind myself that this is normal part of the grief process and it will pass.
That I will not be afraid or ashamed to seek professional help if I feel it is necessary.
That I will commune with my child at least once a day in whatever way feels comfortable and natural to me, and that I won't feel compelled to explain this communion to others or to justify or even discuss it with them.
That I will try to eat, sleep, and exercise every day in order to give my body strength it will need to help me cope with my grief.
To know that I will heal, even though it will take a long time.
To let myself heal and not feel guilty about feeling better.
To remind myself that the grief process is circuitous–that is, I will not make steady upward progress. And when I find myself slipping back into the old moods of despair and depression, I will tell myself that "slipping backward" is also a normal part of the grief process and these moods, too, will pass.
To try to be happy about something for some part of every day, knowing that at first, I may have to force myself to think cheerful thoughts so eventually they can become a habit.
That I will reach out at times and try to help someone else, knowing that helping others will help me to get over my depression.
That even though my child is dead, I will opt for life, knowing that is what my child would want me to do.
I miss you my baby angel / Heather Voelz (Mommy)
My Dear Sweet Ava, Mommy and Daddy miss you very much. Our hearts ache for you everyday. We love you so very much!!! We cannot tell you how many lives you touched in just a short time. We love you with all our hearts! Love, Mom...
Condolences / Angie Maples (friend)
Mei we never forget they are always close to our hearts always and forever! My daughter would have been 17yrs old this year Juni 24th 1993. 3lbs 1oz. after only being with us for 2hours. 2 very precious hours. this i...
Happy 4th Birthday Ava / Mommy
Hi Sweetheart! Happy 4th Birthday to you. I cannot believe that 4 years have passed since you were taken from me. In a way it feels like it was just yesterday that I held you in my arms. Your Grandpa Dan Grandma Suzie Bernie and myself all released ...
Happy 3rd Birthday Sweet Ava / Daddy (Daddy)
Happy 3rd Birthday Ava. I think of you all the time and wish you were here so I could see you grow up. I often wonder what you would look like now and what fun things we could be doing together. I hope you know how much you mean to ...
Happy 3rd Birthday Ava / Mommy (Mommy)
My Sweet Ava Lynn~
Happy 3rd Birthday/Angelversary, my precious daughter. I love you so very much! I cannot believe that 3 years have passed since I saw your perfect and beautiful face, your blonde hair, and cute little nose. I cannot believe ...
Daddy please don't look so sad, Mommy please don't cry. I am in the arms of Jesus and he sings me lullabies. Please do not try to question God, don't think He is unkind. Don't think He sent me to you and that He changed His mind. You see, I am special and I'm needed up above. I'm the special child you gave Him, the product of your love. I'll always be there with you. So watch the sky at night. Find the brightest star that's gleaming That's my halo's brilliant light. So Daddy please don't look so sad. Mommy please don't cry. I am in the arms of Jesus and he sings me lullabies.
Dear Daddy Dear Daddy,
I know today is Father's Day and you miss me really bad, But if you could see what I see, You wouldn't be so sad.
I have all kinds of playmates and playgrounds everywhere, with swings and slides and balloon rides that whiz right through the air.
We have ice cream, cake and candy, milk, cookies and punch; We never have to go to bed and we choose what we want for lunch.
There's even a river where you and I could fish, the water's as clear as a day in spring; And beautiful rainbows and fluffy white clouds from which I can see everything!! !!!!!!
So you see daddy, even though I'm not with you, I'm under my Fathers' care, And when it's time for you to come, you'll find me waiting right here!
And I'll give you the biggest hug, Gee, I can hardly wait. And when no one's looking, We'll even swing on Heaven's Gate!
I love you daddy. HAPPY FATHER'S DAY! ~~~~~~~~~ Love always, Your little angel, Ava
YOU'RE A SPECIAL LITTLE SPIRIT~ YOU'RE A SPECIAL LITTLE SPIRIT~
"You're a Special Little Spirit," the all great Master said,
As he gently caressed the curly blond hair of the Little Spirit's Head.
"you need to go to Earth to spend some time, you know,
A place I send most Spirits to be tested, to learn, to grow.
The Little Spirit, in sadness, slowly bowed her head,
And from her eye a tear did steal and down her cheek it shed.
"Don't you fret now little one, I won't let you stay too long,
I'll bring you back to help me here,
You'll hardly know you've been gone.
You're my choicest Little Spirit, you're the apple of my eye."
And he wiped the tear and gently
kissed His Little Spirit good-bye.
"I'm back," the Little Spirit whispered,
as she climbed onto her Master's knee,
And the Master said, "I told you, you would not be long away from me."
And then, the Lord, He noticed still another tear welled in her eye.
"Why are you so sad, Little Spirit, whatever should make you cry?"
"I'm glad I'm back," the Spirit said,
"but Master you must surely know, When your angel came to get me, I didn't want to go.
I know you said you needed me and that I'd be gone the shortest while,
But Lord, couldn't I have had a little longer earthly trial?"
The Master let the Little Spirit slip down from His knee,
He firmly took the little hand and said,"Come walk with me."
The Little Spirit and her Lord walked slowly hand in hand,
As the Master explained Her special
part in the great and marvelous plan.
"Now Lord, I don't mean to argue, I understand you need me home.
But I left in such a hurry, I left everyone hurting and so alone.
I didn't let my earthly parents know how much I loved them so.
I was much too small to tell them,
Lord, how will they ever know?
They feel they've been cheated, and in a way so do I.
Not getting to share any more than we did, how can I ever tell them why?"
"Little Spirit, I know your heart is heavy with the message you need to share.
But you need not worry anymore, I'll watch over your loved ones there.
I'll send them loving comfort as a strong and helping hand.
I'll content and give peace to their aching hearts,
so they will understand.
The Little Spirit looked up at her Master and said "Thank you for explaining it to me.
And could you please tell them I'm safe and happy and that someday they'll be here with me."
"Yes," said the Lord with a smile and a nod, "I'll tell them all that I can."
Then the others came to see the Little Spirit, as the Lord let go of her hand.
He said, "I'll tell them you're pure, as pure as Heaven's Gold,
That I needed the warmth of your perfect soul to keep Heaven from getting cold."
I heard you crying yesterday And felt your heart-sent love So I’m sending you this message Now, from Heaven up above. You’re wondering if I’ll celebrate My birthday (way up here) I know you’re missing me today I feel your essence near. God planned a special day for me He told me with a wink He’d ordered me a special cake (It’s Angel food, I think) I’m getting lots of hugs from God He’s really good at that And every time that I walk by He gives my head a pat
Balloons will fill the streets for me They float up through the clouds And we have lots of clowns up here That make us laugh out loud There is a birthday carousel Jeweled horses ride the wind With music playing oh so sweet… The magic never ends I’ve made so many friends, you see We laugh and play and sing We ride our bikes and play jump rope And sleep in Angel’s wings We’ll have our cake and ice cream And open gifts, surprise! But we don’t blow out our candles here Instead, they light the skies
A wife that loses her husband is called a widow. A husband that loses his wife is called a widower. A child that loses their parents is called an orphan. There is no word for a parent who loses a child... That's just how awful the loss is.